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When I relocated back to London from the West Country it surprised some of my friends and family. Many people  decide to leave London and the hustle and bustle of city life  and choose a quiet life in the country.

PBP_7142 RIt takes at least six months to re-orientate and to start to build up a new life. Even though parts of my new life were familiar (I lived in West London in my 20’s and came back in my 40’s for a year) the process was intriguing. I rediscovered many things that I used to love doing and had forgotten about, like visiting galleries and exhibitions and walking along the embankment by the Thames.

It’s been a refreshing and energising process for me so far!

 

When we go through a life transition, we can lose sight of the familiar landmarks as the habits and routines slip away and the new ones have not yet been established. Friends, places, relationships, old working patterns may come under the spotlight and be re-examined. Sometimes in the midst of all the changes we  feel "lost at sea," not knowing where to drop anchor. At other times there can be a rush of excitement and anticipation of what’s to come. I rediscovered a new sense of freedom as I began to redefine myself and try out new things.

The question of who we are and who we want to be arises. I had let go of many familiar roles and ways of being. This period of " in-between" is known as the neutral zone. It's a stage where the old has gone and the new has not yet arrived. It's a time when we may need to make some psychological adjustments.

What I learnt during this transition:-

  • To notice when, where and with whom I feel most at home and where I do not.
  • To surrender to the present moment continually.
  • To trust and take note of the synchronicities that show up.
  • To become curious about the everyday choices I make about my life

At the end of this " in between" phase we will have successfully transitioned into our new life. I'd like to end with this great quote:-

“Success is liking yourself, liking what you do and liking how you do it.” — Maya Angelou

Autumn is a time of transition. The children have gone back to school, young people begin a new university term and we have arrived in a new season.

I want to share my thoughts on the topic of "letting go."

We may think we are ready to let go, but for many of us, when the moment arrives there is a heaviness and level of resistance that shows up.

Last autumn, I set myself the task of sorting out my storage. I had been living back in London for a year but I still had some personal items stored away.

Letting go of this personal "stuff" was a process because when I connected to "my things" they made me feel SECURE but I didn't really need anything that was there for my new life. In fact I had the urge to buy new things to match my NEW ENERGY.

My storage represented the parts of my OLD LIFE that I was NOT ready to let go of.

I am sharing this with you because there may be some exciting shifts that you are ready for but if you are still "holding on" to the past in any way then the new can't come in fully.

Here are some questions for you to think about:-

  • What are you holding onto that keeps you feeling safe and secure?
  •  What are you ready to let go so you can finally start a new life chapter this Autumn?

Once you decide to let go of some "stuff" you will start to feel completely different!

LIGHTER

EXPANDED

ALIVE

JOYFUL

SO if you are still holding onto things, people, places... even after you KNOW deep down that you should let them go, now is the PERFECT TIME to release this old energy.

Many of my clients tell me that they know they need to leave their husband/partner /job and move on but they feel very insecure about making the transition. What's holding them back is FEAR; fear of the unknown, fear of being alone and it is scary. We all want to feel loved and secure and supported.

The good news is that you don't need to continue to carry the shadows of the past around with you and by facing your fears with support they will diminish and be replaced with new feelings of excitement. I also use a new process in my work with clients that helps clear away fear and release anxiety.

If you know you are holding onto the past and you are feeling READY to begin the process of letting go contact me   now to find out how I can support you, so that you can start creating YOUR Vibrant Life NOW!

 

This time of year can leave us a feeling a bit jaded and unmotivated. No wonder we have Valentine's Day in the middle of February to bring in some warmth and passion. This week's post is  your invitation to find more passion in your life!

OV26AOMUMIWe know that passion is infectious- remember the last time you spent a few hours with someone who was enthusiastic and how this made a  difference to how you felt?

As a coach, I am fascinated by the theme of passion, and how we cultivate that vital "spark" that makes us feel alive and expanded. Last week, I attended an inspiring talk by Gregg Levoy who has a new book out called "Vital Signs: The Nature and Nurture of Passion."  As well as talking about passion, Gregg talked about "dis-passion" which is the experience of being numb, stuck or bored with our lives.

How do we get our passion back when it seems to have gone into hiding? Gregg reminded us that passion will come and go naturally but there are ways in which we can cultivate it too. And of course Gregg's talk  inspired me to write this post to you!

3 Ways to Reconnect to Your Passion

  1. Stop doing the same old things in the same old ways and experiment with your life. Create a different routine in your day and see what happens.
  2. Step out of your comfort zone. It doesn't need to be a huge step but it could mean that you risk saying something positive to someone rather than keep quiet or step up in the way you do something.
  3. Spend an hour a day doing something you are passionate about, this could be painting, writing, baking, walking and notice what happens.

I'd love to hear how you get on, so please post a comment in the box below.