When I relocated back to London from the West Country it surprised some of my friends and family. Many people decide to leave London and the hustle and bustle of city life and choose a quiet life in the country.
It takes at least six months to re-orientate and to start to build up a new life. Even though parts of my new life were familiar (I lived in West London in my 20’s and came back in my 40’s for a year) the process was intriguing. I rediscovered many things that I used to love doing and had forgotten about, like visiting galleries and exhibitions and walking along the embankment by the Thames.
It’s been a refreshing and energising process for me so far!
When we go through a life transition, we can lose sight of the familiar landmarks as the habits and routines slip away and the new ones have not yet been established. Friends, places, relationships, old working patterns may come under the spotlight and be re-examined. Sometimes in the midst of all the changes we feel "lost at sea," not knowing where to drop anchor. At other times there can be a rush of excitement and anticipation of what’s to come. I rediscovered a new sense of freedom as I began to redefine myself and try out new things.
The question of who we are and who we want to be arises. I had let go of many familiar roles and ways of being. This period of " in-between" is known as the neutral zone. It's a stage where the old has gone and the new has not yet arrived. It's a time when we may need to make some psychological adjustments.
What I learnt during this transition:-
- To notice when, where and with whom I feel most at home and where I do not.
- To surrender to the present moment continually.
- To trust and take note of the synchronicities that show up.
- To become curious about the everyday choices I make about my life
At the end of this " in between" phase we will have successfully transitioned into our new life. I'd like to end with this great quote:-
“Success is liking yourself, liking what you do and liking how you do it.” — Maya Angelou